What if you didn’t have to prove it? What if you just knew that you were… enough?
We live in a culture where no matter how many achievements you accrue, you never feel you are enough. That goal post just continues to move a little further, and then a little further, yet. And for the women and girls of the post feminism generation the additional pressures are even more extreme. They were told they can do anything and end up feeling they must do everything.. And, they need to do it well, while looking good, being nice, and sending some well timed “thank you” notes would also be appreciated (and maybe even expected.)
Add to these incredible expectations the pressures of social media, goals for effortless perfection and the need to achieve for oneself, your family and the prior generations that gave you these opportunities and something is likely to snap.
Rachel Simmons is the New York Times bestselling author of Odd Girl Out: The Hidden Culture of Aggression in Girls and The Curse of the Good Girl: Raising Authentic Girls with Courage and Confidence. She believed it wasn’t enough for us to open the doors for girls that we also needed to give them the confidence to walk through them. Now she knows we’ve raised a generation of girls who feel no matter how hard they try, they will never be smart enough, successful enough, pretty enough, thin enough, well liked enough, witty enough online or sexy enough. And she’s had enough! Her answer is her latest book, Enough As She Is: How to Help Girls Move Beyond Impossible Standard of Success to Live Healthy, Happy and Fulfilling Lives.