Pay attention to the zeros and ones in your personal interactions. We are all a bunch of ones and zeroes – On/Off; Open/Closed; Connection/Disconnection. And our behavior can foster either distinct reaction from those we are attempting to be in relationship with. So start noticing your and other’s reactions during your daily interchanges.
Ask, “What turns people on and what turns them off?” As Brene Brown so aptly reminds us, “We are hardwired for connection.” So pay attention! Learn to pick up on subtle, or not so subtle, shifts in tone, body language and facial expressions. Really listen to what’s being said. Register the response you are receiving prior to continuing an action and react according to the message you are being sent, rather than staunchly continuing down your path with disregard for the reaction you are eliciting
One of the best ways to get desired results from your interpersonal exchanges is to think, connection or disconnection? Notice what causes what and adjust accordingly. This isn’t unwisely accommodating yourself to others, it is being in tune.